Understanding the Causes of Infidelity: Exploring Dead Bedrooms and Relationship Dissatisfaction

Why people are Cheating 

Dead bedrooms is one of the most cited reasons for troubled marriages in the adultery and infidelity support groups on reddit. That's only comes behind where one partner starts seeing the other more as a roommate and the communication and spark dies down. Then if they don't divorce or try therapy, one partner is possibly cheating or having an emotional affair--at least that's how it seems to play out.

It's weird how in this comment section this has somehow morphed into "man = in the wrong, women = innocent" The reality is, if you read about this stuff, the roles of who is not sexually interested can equally be the man or the woman. Not to mention the reasons that are behind the lack of sex. However, two weeks is not that long. Many here are just projecting their own biases onto this.

"I know ALOT of moms who have lost their sex drive. Doesn’t mean they are cheating. Act like we’re always supposed to have a 20 year old sex drive after kids and life starts weighing you down." someone said.

"I mildly understand only bc my partner has severe self confidence issues, and it 100% gets in the way of intimacy. I go months sometimes without being intimate with him and I think it’s really hurting our relationship in unspoken ways. I’ve never cheated and of course I never would, but the lack of intimacy among other things is really breaking us down." Another person.

This is an absolutely ridiculous meme. If you were single you would go longer than 2 weeks without sex. You take care of business yourself. Instead you feel like just because you're with somebody you own them and they should please you whenever you want? There are lots of reasons why somebody may not have sex for 2 weeks. If your relationship is somehow becoming not romantic anymore in any way. Then you two need to sit down and find out why. But saying this is why a man cheats is a bunch of b*******. If your relationship is no longer working than you need to decide whether you want to keep going or not. There is never a good reason to cheat."

"At the end of the day you make time for what you want to do, kids, sleep, all that we all have lives, 2 things to consider though. Sometimes women have more sex when they first meet you then once they feel secured they slow down and this can be a problem…also to avoid this try to find someone who’s sexual chemistry matches yours. As a man if this Important to you, you need to make sure your partner is on the same page as you sexually. On the flip side as a man don’t let the romance and communication die down either, because if you change she may change based off of that. Long story short keep the same energy from when you first meet on both sides"

All of you are wrong. For one couple, sex/physical intimacy could be a priority and its fine. For another couple, sex could not be important and its also fine. You just have to find the right type of person for you. People are wired in very very different ways. It’s our responsibility to know ourselves, know what we want/need and chose our partner accordingly.

for wanting sexual needs to be met? Everyone has needs and desires in a relationship, they’ll have to communicate in a healthy way and clearly something is wrong and isn’t being communicated.